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Date: 28 July 2008 18:36:33
Have just heard about the very untimely and tragic death of someone with whom I had a very difficult relationship, and with whom I hadn't been in touch for some time. Feelings about something like this are so ambivalent. I thank God that last time I bumped into this person we had a civilized and friendly conversation. S/he had a very sad life and I feel upset that it had to end so suddenly.
Things are complicated by the fact that the person's mother didn't want certain people, of whom I am one, to know what had happened. Which means I can't express my very real sympathy to her, and if I run into her (which I am quite likely to do) I am not supposed to know. So even if I see her I can't tell her how very sorry I am. This is not what any of us would have wished.