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Date: 04 July 2007 06:53:11
Welcome to my virtual celebration. Today is my own personal independence day, (besides it being the one that the Americans celebrate) and today I have reached the 10 year milestone. Yes, dear reader today it is a decade since my ex upped and left and I have to say that although I never got the intended party sorted for this weekend, (partly because I have Third Party's feelings to consider) I am celebrating.
Now don't get me wrong, I think marriage is a great institiution if it works (and as I've said before you get hitched for love rather than social / religious convention) but for me it falling apart was the best thing that has happened to me. That's not to say everything in the garden over those ten years have been rosy (oh no I've had the odd journey to hell during that time and particularly early on I really didn't think life was worth living) but overall it has been a decade of liberation and achievement.
The reconstruction process has taken me into a career I love, adventures to places I'm not sure I'd have ever been to otherwise (most memorably Iona and Cologne). It has seen me get into a "proper uni" at last (as well as journey through another couple of "new uni's" picking up bits of paper along the way). It has seen me move to live by the sea; it has seen me develop a faith that I can live and breathe without feeling I have to apologise for. It has seen me smile and laugh (as well as shed the odd tear) as I have become more reconciled with my self and who I truly am and it has seen me become more comfortable (if not much more competant) as a mum.
None of this would have happened without the help and support of my friends and family and so as I raise a glass I say thank you.
Thank you to the three people I've lost during that time who supported me through it by providing sanctuary and bucket loads of support and good advice (my grandparents)and funding, aswell as practical support, advice and the odd kick up the backside when it was required (my mum).
Thank you to the rest of the family who have dealt with and supported the wreck and then found the independant woman never keeps in contact enough apart from when she needs something.
Thank you to my real life friends who have kept me going and for the many who accepted me into their lives and communities when I was still basically at the falling apart stage & in my own words a complete nightmare.
Thank you to the on line friends who have dropped comments, hugs and who have generally been there over the last couple of years. Particularly thank you to the ones I've met in real life who have provided either accomodation, hospitality or help and support with Third Party when I've been on an adventure, (thank you for helping her to disappear and me to breathe).
So again I raise a glass to the next ten years and what ever that may have in store.