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Date: 09 August 2010 08:30:55
Ok, it appears I have managed to inadvertantly upset some people and others have opinions which they have let others know but not me...some are simply opting for silence on the matter and so here is my response and the last word on the subject for now.
1) TOH proposed to me on Friday evening just before we went off to see Desmond Tutu. I phoned Third Party but nobody else before we went. TOH wanted to put it on FB and so we did, and that's how people found out, after all it was hardly going to be a suprise. Some people I knew were not thrilled at the idea and so I decided not to get in conversation with them about it. For some strange reason TOH had been in FB communication before the event with four people, all of whom were amongst the least likely people I would have chosen to discuss it with, but they were people who v. much always have Third Party's interests paramount when talking about me, which I thank them for. I apologise if the fact I rang nobody with the news other than Third Party and left everybody else to find out in their own time off FB or where ever has hurt people.
2) I accept that there are those who for various reasons don't think this is the best decision I have ever made or that I should have waited for Third Party's sake. I appreciate your concern and respect that we differ on this matter. Thanks to those of you who have supported Third Party through appropriate messages and texts.
3) Because of the differences in opinion on the whole thing I have v. much respected that those who have remained silent are those who have reservations and am have been taking the we just won't discuss it approach, because what has happened has happened. I hope that in my handling of the whole thing I haven't hurt anybody but am becoming aware of the fact I might of. Apologies to those who I have hurt by taking the route of remaining silent on the whole thing to them, in order not to get in an argument.
Anyway I hope that has not made things worse and I value the friendship of the four or five people, atleast, various bits of this post apply to.