Categories: sexuality
Date: 03 May 2010 12:03:29
In relation to these two posts (i) and (ii) from Fermat's Margin I would like to respond by pointing out that my responses, and those represented by the people who have moved from side B to Side A are do not automatically make them postmodernists and do not mean they lack integrity. They can be positions of carefully thought out and hard to hold onto integrity based not on fear or compromise but rather a strongly held view that the world and faith can be varying shades of grey rather than simply black or white.
It seems that this position gets you shot from both sides and makes you a stranger in a strange land! Yet it is the one I will hold onto.
I know my past mistakes have shown the problems with this view, but that was when it was based on fear. I am now in a position where I am making positive decisions based on love and an understanding that the true answer to this question is "I don't know but I believe that God's spirit and grace in my life leads me to this conclusion". That conclusion might be side A, it might be side B or it might be inbetween. Let us never though base our view and position on pressure or fear of the reaction of others. Similarly let us, I believe, never give too much info in the wrong situation where calm waters may quite happily be left calm.
So to clarify I believe I do have integrity, I don't believe I'm selling out and my decision to sometimes not introduce TOH as my partner is not based on fear rather a respect of the contary position that others might hold or an understanding that sometimes the best thing is to let sleeping dogs lie.