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Date: 11 February 2005 17:00:38
Ok, so this weekend we are approaching that time of the year which every single tries to ignore, but short of shutting oneself away and not going shopping it is impossible to totally ignore.
Yes this is valentine weekend. Right at this point I have to say I am fully in favour of supporting relationships, particularly marriages and so I think valentines weekend is important. Also I am not one of those, I'm so depressed I'm not attached type of singles. However, at this time of the year being single does become kind of like having a handicap of some sort. It excludes you from conversation in a way that doesn't happen at other times of the year and can make you feel like you're lacking in some way.
So I thought today I would kind of celebrate singleness (or the version I have, knowing that as a divorced parent I have a different type of singleness to some of my friends who have never been married & / or don't have children).
Right the best part is the freedom I have to decide what I want to do, when (within the confines of the academic year timetable).
Also I don't have to constantly be thinking about the effect of my actions on another adult (that's not to say I ignore Third Party, but it's a different kind of consideration). I can sit and read if I want to or listen to what I want to on the stereo.
That's not to say that there are not disadvantages, particularly the lack of hugs when you come in from work just having had enough, or go home after some emotionally draining life event.
Anyway the point I'm trying to make is this valentines remember that single people are not to be pitied or treated as if they have some kind of stigma, but they are there and so it's not clever to rub their nose in it (even if it is, as is normally the case, through a lack of thinking rather than any deliberate malice).
Anyway, as for me, I'm having a girlie, singles weekend. Girls don't have to be attached to just wanna have fun;-)