Singleness

Date: 26 August 2011 16:07:52

Just back from a few days away with a friend, and have 8 days until the big move to start studying. While I love the friends I have made here, and will miss them terribly, it was great to spend time with someone who has a shared past with me, and in someways a shared sense of identity. L and I have been friends since we have been teenagers and this is now our seventh holiday together, so we know each others routines, what we like to do, and how we use language to express things. We had a great time exploring the Cowal peninsula and a day trip to Bute. There is some fabulous scenery and it is really not very touristy. We both commented on how use we are to being single, not in a negative or a positive way but just in a matter fact kind of way. Just little things like, working out what to buy in the supermarket, and being used to being totally in control of what we are doing. I guess it reminds both of us of the positives of being single, but the importance of having good friends. With the forth coming move I have been thinking about being single. My automatic reaction is to moan that by being single, I have to do everything, there is no safety net of knowing somebody, of having somebody to turn up to things with, to stop me feeling lonely and not understood when I’m still new. On the other hand I am aware that I probably wouldn’t have applied outside where I am living if I was with someone, or at least it would have been made a lot more complicated. Overall I can see that while I would be happy to meet someone, that there are so many positives with being single, that I can enjoy. I know that the next few months are going to be hard, but that is life, and it would be equally tough just in a different way if I wasn’t single.