Memory like a sieve....

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Date: 25 May 2004 20:01:05

Yesterday afternoon was spent on a job I love - sewing the badges onto Tiddles' scout uniform. Yes, I know, I know, he should be doing it himself. But then, I missed out on six years of mothering him and with most things I encourage him to be independent at the expense of longing to do things for him, so it's nice to have this special thing which I can do for him with love. Mind you, I'm not sure if he feels the same way after last night. While sewing, I lost a pin. While at Scouts, Tiddles found it... sticking in his skin!

Smudgelet had a lesson in life last night. We arrived at Beavers, slightly late because he'd taken for ever over his tea again, only to discover the place locked up and empty. He suddenly remembered, with horror, the letter that he'd been given last week and I'd been nagging at him to give me. "I think it said they were going to the beach somewhere, but I'm not sure which one". Oh dear - about turn and home for a much-needed early night.

I didn't strangle Dad, but I experienced some of the frustration that's ahead of us both as he cannot hold things in his short term memory. After agreeing that he would make his own lunch today and I would make a main meal at tea time, he forgot and looked at me expectantly at 1pm for his lunch... really hungry. I made him a bowl of soup for speed (he has diabetes and has to have regular meals) and he decided he'd like to cook some potatoes to have with it which took ages. Then in the evening, just as I was bustling round the kitchen doing the last minute bits and pieces of the dinner, he turned up to offer me two pieces of ham which needed eating up and would make the boys a sandwich. He was really surprised to find I had a meal all ready for him, but rather perturbed that the ham wasn't going to be eaten.

I'm just as bad, mind. This morning I was enjoying a leisurely morning, waiting until the boys had gone before sinking into my now customary bath with my book and a cup of coffee, with plenty of time to be ready for Bible Study at ten. At 8.30, just as I was testing the water and deciding it was still a little too hot, I was struck by a sudden realisation. Last week at Bible Study we'd decided to do a double session this week, starting at 9 a.m.
I had the fastest bath in the world - still too hot so I ended up looking like a lobster and unable to get dry, and disturbed by one phone call and a visitor at the door! Then it was a mad race up to M's house, forgetting to pick up my Bible and study book and without doing the pre-reading that I was going to sneak in before I went.

It was good, though - lots to discuss and learn, and a chance to talk about CoF too. It really felt as though we were moving forward. We have a clear vision for the ecumenical work in the village and the way we need to change. All we need now is to keep that impetus and move forward. Exciting prospects! I now need to consider the thought that came to me that maybe I'm being prepared to become more involved in this than I might have thought. Sometimes you wonder just what God's got up His sleeve.

I'd better not mention that we ate out AGAIN today, M and I. Or that we just couldn't resist having a pudding, despite both of us seriously needing to lose some weight. M pointed out that it was a good way of dieting as, by having such a big late lunch, neither of us really would want any tea. At this rate, I'll be fading away!