thoughts on particular relationships

Date: 15 November 2008 02:23:27

I'm feeling much better - been experiencing a lot of drama over the past few weeks... I have made a decision to be healthy, and stop seeing the person I was dating... as continuing the relationship would be detremental to me. People show you who they are... and I realize, when speaking to skilled debators who need to 'win' (when you're more of a thinker-type) it just doesn't bode well...it's a challenge to be heard and valued and listened to... here are some things I deserve, and luckily it only took me a few months (not years) to figure this out. (i'll probably edit this post in the near future, but it's cathartic for me to share now)

i'm lovable

i deserve to be cherished

i deserve to have someone treat me thoughtfully...and respectfully

it's ok disagree - it's not ok to make the other person wrong

it's ok to have conflict - it's not ok to refuse to see the other person's perspective

it's ok to be confused - it's not ok to think you know better than the other person in the relationship and decide things for her.

it's ok to want something - it's not ok to push boundaries to the extreme

it's ok to think you're right - it's not ok to create a winner/loser situation

it's ok to be passionate about issues - it's not ok to be manipulative

it's ok to love someone (and love myself enough) to let that person go... even though being alone is scary and brings its own challenges. I've been on both sides of this fence. I'd much rather be alone and healthy than with someone who likes to receive instead of give/reciprocate.

it's ok to disappoint or hurt someone when doing so is a healthy step in the right direction for me

thank you for reading... take care, be well, and look out for an upcoming WISE post : )