Categories: uncategorized
Date: 26 November 2005 09:33:05
I've just found The Ship thread related to all of this. Must read it sometime.
Janine asked: Now that the Alien is here, are there any added dimensions for you when you think about a thing like that ever happening in her life? (November 25, 2005, 10:34 pm)
This is something I'd actually never thought about at all! Obviously my first thought of something like this happening to her would be total horror and anger. But I would very much like to hope that we have the sort of relationship where she could come and tell me about something like that. Not, of course, that it would make things any easier or better, but... (can't think what I'm trying to get at!).
I to an extent feel that it was partly my own fault because I was drunk. And my tendancy to get drunk, I think is related a lot to the fact that alcohol was 'a sin' as I was growing up, and I was never allowed it. It was something kept at a distance, and as a result, I do tend to abuse it. But...
Hm... this is one of those 'where do I start', or 'what to say' type feelings... hmm.
I guess it's trying to get that balance between protecting your children and giving them freedom to be themselves. I don't know how I'll be with that. I hope I'll have learnt from the things that I thought my parents did well and didn't do well. But I guess I can only do my best. No matter what I do, I know there will be things that I can't get right, and ways in which I can't always protect her or keep her happy and safe.
I guess the best we can do is to be able to do everything we can and hope that if / when things inevitably go wrong (whether it be big or small), then that we can be there for her and help / support her.
Hm