Trust

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Date: 31 December 2008 14:49:00


Trust is a strange thing. You either have it or you don't, there's no inbetween. It takes a lot to regain and is easily broken. But it's a beautiful thing, an invisible bond that binds people together.

When Kole and I started our relationship sat on the balcony of a monastry in Strumica. I knew that I could trust him, not just for now but for the future. I knew he would never do anything to consciously hurt me, he would always protect me and look out for me. The idea of being with this guy, despite language and cultural differences, excited me and came with a peace, a trust, that no matter what I knew I could trust him.

I was watching Jeremy Kyle, while lying in bed in some half asleep state over the holidays, and was struck with how often the issue of trust comes up. It made me sad that there were often children involved, broken relationships and an awful lot of hurt. And these people lived together or in the same communities, saw each other regularly, were integrated into each others lives, but the trust was broken.

It made me feel blessed that I am in a relationship built on trust, where at this stage we may be 3000 miles apart but I trust Kole explicitly, whether hes out with his mates, at the disco, or away with work for a bit and I know that he trusts me too. It's a great foundation for a relationship.

But then how do we as a society build communities of people full of trust? We need to be less 'i' focussed. When did vulnerability and morals become a weakness? So many countries strive to be like western countries but actually we could learn from them so much about how to be a better community and Im sure that trusting others, friendship and being a good neighbour is all part of that.