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Date: 07 February 2007 12:18:36
i realise that the pregnancy analogies aren't terribly accurate, and i'm sure the emotions involved are different, but they do sometimes seem the only metaphor that i have to understand certain situations.
conversation with friend after church on sunday:
me: L, i have an interview on thursday for that job i applied for.
L: good news.
me: well, i was wanting a bit of advice. what do i tell them when they ask 'can you see any obsticals to your taking this job?', which they always seem to ask. do i tell them that i'm waiting to adopt?
L: well, you wouldn't tell them if you were trying to get pregnant, and in a way that's what stage you're at.
me: but really, i suppose if you look at it that way, then actually i am pregnant, because we know that the child is coming, we just don't know if it's a 3 month 'pregnancy' or a 2 year one. if it were 3 months then yes, it would be an obsticle to taking the job, and they would be pretty annoyed when i quit that i didn't tell them of the possibility, which will wreck havoc with my CV. if it's a 2 year wait, then i'm not going to hang around moping and not doing/earning anything because the child "might come soon."
L: hmm, i see what you mean.
had a funny look from someone who overheard that bit.
since we've been approved i've been asked countless times, "so have they said how long it will be now?" or "have they said anything yet" or "what's the longest time you could be waiting?". and the thing is, there really is no way of knowing. no way of knowing at all! it could be a very very long time indeed but it might not be. and there are only statistics and case scenarios to go on.
don't worry, we'll tell everyone when it happens.
when it comes to the interview, we mulled over various various possibilies and situations that could come up, and i think, as really, i don't know anything, i can't say anything. anything at all would just be conjecture. and even if we were given a possible match next week, it would still take several months to complete. so i think i'll keep quiet for now because right now, there are no obsticles to my taking the job.