Categories: christianity, anglicanism, homosexuality, relationships
Tags: Church of England, Jeffrey John, Southwark, Love, Family, Homosexuality
Date: 06 July 2010 11:13:06
I see there is much discussion about who will be the next person to take up the now-infamous See of Southwark, following the retirement of Dr Tom Butler, who I met with my banana after a rather bizarre lecture on science and faith. These rows about homosexuality in the Church of England make me very sad. Jeffrey John (pray for him - it cannot be easy being a political football. I 've met him briefly and he seemed lovely) is celibate but in a committed, loving relationship. Why should gay people have to be lonely and miserable, Mr Sugdon? It makes me glad I am not in the ordination process, if even abiding by the rules of 'Issues in Human Sexuality' is not enough for some people, but living a lie and the subsequent damage to one's mental health is perfectly fine. Sigh! I don't want to get on my soapbox today, mostly because I feel slightly fragile and need a hug, not a row, but it has done me a great deal of good to be honest about my sexual orientation, both to myself and those I care about, and being with TractorGirl makes me feel alive, whole, complete in a way that being with a man, however lovely, could never do. Being told this is wrong hurts - it feels to me like this life in all its fullness that Jesus talked about...
Anyway, on a lighter note, the weekend was somewhat interesting, as TractorGirl's post explains. I was actually really glad to be able to be there for both TG and Third Party, and hope it goes some way to demonstrating to the latter that I do care and am going to be a trustworthy and reliable presence in her life, and not there to take mum away. I've found the 'compartmentalisation' very hard, because I really do care about TP, and want to build a good relationship, so I hope this can be the start of that :)