Categories: just-life
Date: 07 February 2007 00:56:05
Now that our internet seems to be working a bit better I shall expand this a bit....
In the last couple of months a couple of my friends have taken the search for someone to.... well, spend the rest of their life with might be a bit of an exaggeration, but you get the general idea. You can tell it's bad when they can even press-gang me into signing up to one of these damned internet dating sites.
No, I'm not going to tell you which, and yes, when my trial period runs out on Feb 14th (oh the irony!!) I have very little plans of then subscribing.
(I'm not going to tell you T&E if you were right, but good guess!!!)
Thing is, meeting people has never been a problem for me, one of those things being a general happy-chappy I guess. However, that next step is one that I've never got past.... which is a slight problem.
I am always slightly reserved upon meeting new people, I know that I can rub people up the wrong way when they don't know me so it's easier to behave myself and wait till I might be not so unexpected. Of course then means I fall foul of the “three times” rule.
I can't remember which sit-com it was (possibly These Friends of Mine/Ellen, but the idea is along the idea of after three meetings if nothing is..... “happening” then you are on the freeway to Friendshipville, with it's suburbs of ‘Good Mates' and ‘Just Friends'.
Now I happen to be someone who took two types of peanut-butter and four types of jam to decide that maybe I do like peanut-butter and jelly sandwiches. I've had marmite* on about half-a-dozen time, and still can't decide if I like I or not.
So the “three times” rule really isn't fair.**
Of course, once people get to know me(***) they come to see me as the fun, lovable brother (or possibly first cousin) that they've always wanted. What this means is that if I ask someone out, lets say to see a movie (like I did last week) it is seen along the line of; “I'm off to catch a film, do you want to join...??” Likewise going out for a drink is; “I'm down the pub, wanna drink??” Or anything else for that matter of fact.
I suppose I could try starting to ask them out much earlier, before I know the person or whether I like them, but that wouldn't be me. So bugger that for a lark!!!
I know that there are also people who might say something along the line of ‘just have patience, you never know.....' blah blah blah...... I'm ignoring you. d:
It has always puzzled me (and annoyed me) that some people seem to be able to just, almost fall into relationships when they want to.... Perhaps I'm more discerning (or picky as I was described last night) or perhaps I've just yet to find someone.
* for those who don't know, you either love it or hate it.
** yes, this might not apply to normal people, but as people have pointed out, I'm not know for being normal.
*** first time I wrote this while watching Top Gear I wrote ‘once people get to know me they get to know me' oh aren't I clever!!!