Categories: just-life
Date: 26 April 2007 23:57:37
I have recently had a revelation about what sound's like a truely scary book.
Having read the blurb* I am slightly confused that how they managed to get an entire book out of such a small topic. Gee-whizz, they have covered the topic in the outline, what more can they say??? I do have some issues though.....
*The book's basic contention is that all heterosexual men love to pursue women, and highly prize "catching them." If they like a woman, they will overtly declare their interest because they really enjoy doing this. If he sends mixed or positive signals, but waits for the woman to ask him out first, then he is either lazy or not very interested (hence the title). This behavior is hardwired in men's brains and hasn't been changed by feminism. A woman making the first move will either disappoint the man, or be attempting to start a relationship with a lazy or uninterested one.
These are the fact that it seems to polorize men as being either like dogs chasing a bitch on heat, or lazy/uninterested. Now I know that somehow they have managed to fill in the one hundred and eighty-seven pages, and possibly they've covered other topics, but I suspect not.
Thing is, men are (and I do mean it, really) a little bit more complicated than that.
I have...... a friend.... whom I would say would fall into neither of these categories. Simply from one (hyphenated) word - self-esteem. Or two words - low self-esteem. My friend would counter that to "overtly declare their interest because they really enjoy doing this" is just foolish. Afterall, the LSE says that there is little point in doing so, because you are not good enough.
Likewise with the "waits for the woman to ask him out first, then he is either lazy or not very interested" unless of course LSE tells him that she's mistaken and deserves better.
Now I suppose that somewhere in the one hundred and eighty-seven pages there may be something that covers that sort of thing, like I said I've not read the book, but if this* is the reason why the book was written, there's a very good chance that it isn't.
*The book was inspired by an episode of Sex and the City entitled "Pick-A-Little, Talk-A-Little," in which Miranda asks Carrie's boyfriend, Berger, to analyze the post-date behavior of a potential love interest. Because the man declined Miranda's invitation to come up to her apartment after the date, Berger concludes that "he's just not that into you," adding that "when a guy's really into you, he's coming upstairs."