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Date: 25 March 2008 17:47:10
I recently subscribed to a Christian dating site and received an email from a bloke whose profile read... ”Emotional & spiritual connection are priority. But SORRY, but if youre more than 50 pounds overweight plse tell me now. 25 pounds is NOT a problem. 3w.caloriecounting.co.uk .Im NOT seeking perfection,Im 15 pounds overweight myself:-)”
Er.... let me think. Would I like to meet up with a bloke who is already obsessing about my weight? No thanks! I cannot quite understand why people write this sort of stuf fon a profile, in some ways I almost respect it as at least he knows what he wants, but then again I also think that it is then insulting to then email someone and say hello I would like to meet you, when I clearly don't fit into his criteria.
I am fully aware that I am not a size zero (thank goodness), and whilst I would like to lose weight I would also like to meet someone who loves me, fat arse and all. I am quite able of obsessing about my weight all on my own without having a bloke to do it for me and I have to be really careful that my thought processes don't become unhealthy. It is likely that I will struggle with my weight for my whole life, but I am trying to make changes to my physical health and I am slowly getting there. What I do not need, is that sort of emotional pressure.
I don't think I will be extending my subscription somehow!!
EDIT...
Ps) Here is my email back to him...
"Well as I weigh significantly over your paramenters and expectations I can safely say that I would not be what you are looking for. It's not about being self-critial but to I have to say that I find listing weight-expecations on your profile slightly disconcerting. Whilst I am in no way happy with my weight I refuse to let my life be run by what the scales say. I would rather be overweight and fit and healthy than obsessed by calorie counting. It's not for me. It makes me miserable and feel unattractive.
I know that I will not be what everyone wants, but I hope to one day find just one person for whom I can be their cup of tea. Who knows. I might be successful or I might not, but I will not pander to the world view that thin is beautiful. SOme of the most wonderful people I know are overweight and happy and some of the most miserable people I know are thin."
I thought I was rather succinct, and polite :D